"You are the sky. Everything else - it's just the weather." Pema Chodron
There are so many layers of meaning within this statement but, ultimately, doesn't it invite the inquiry into the nature of self identity? So before you read on, maybe you could take a moment to answer this question for yourself: "Who or what, exactly, am I?"
We all have different answers of course, but my guess is you've responded with something such as: your gender and age, your job, education and marital status. You may have included whether you have children and how many. Some people might reply with - "I'm depressed" or, "I'm an alcoholic/workaholic/shopaholic". For most of us the list describing who/what we are would include the various roles we play within society (wife, mother, son, volunteer), the emotional tendencies we have and beliefs we hold dear, the ways in which we think, descriptions of physical appearance, etc... You get the picture.
We spend our lives wearing these labels, taking them on as though they are the very essence of what/who we are - our very identity, our skin. And we rarely, if ever, stop to ask if any of this is true. After all, one emotion is felt and another follows soon after - and another, and another, ad infinitum. This one thought (experienced now and deeply invested in, dwelled upon) might even be in direct opposition to the next. Doesn't all this quite naturally beg the question: "Is the essence of what I really am this role I play that once was not so? Or these emotions/thoughts/physical aspects that constantly change or come and go?"
So maybe ask again, but this time take a moment to just BE - before thought arises and between one emotion and the next. You'll find the essence of what you are in the space between breaths, between one "cloudy day" and the next. Feel into what's here when the emotion subsides or the thought is gone. Look to the silent, perfect vastness of what you are and always have been before the mind arrives on the scene to say otherwise. Then tell me if you're "the sky or the weather".